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There will never be another Michael…… June 25, 2010

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There will never be another.

Today marks the passing of one of the most influential people to music. On June 25 2009, Michael Jackson passed away. It’s still shocking to me a year later. But instead of mourning his death, I choose to celebrate his life. Michael was truly a talented brotha. He had no formal music or dance training, yet he was one of the best there ever was. He was so much more than just a performer. He was a true philanthropist. He donated to so many charities, many known and unknown. Instead of celebrating his life and talking about the good things he did, people (mainly the media) chose to put out the negative things. Yes, Michael may have made some bad decisions ( i.e. befriending young boys), but if you think he would do harm to those boys or anyone for that matter, you must be out of your mind. And what really pisses me off? Everyone wants to wait until after his death to sing his praises. Now everyone wants to admit they lied about him and so forth. After this man was tormented and publicly ridiculed you want to change your story. I remember when Michael first started going thru the trials and so forth. I thought he was innocent and everyone told me I was stupid, made fun of me, but I didn’t care. Now that Michael has passed and his accusers come out and admit they were lying, NOW everyone wants to jump his defense. Where were you when he needed you?

Nonetheless, Michael may be gone, but his art is still here. His music, his videos, and even his style. Even though he is not here to see the love being shown to him, I’m happy that it is being shown. I believe Michael was truly a special person with special gifts. His influence is seen in all the newcomers that pop up on MTV all the time. But let’s make one thing clear, there will NEVER be another Michael Jackson. I don’t think anyone could will have the influence on pop culture as he did. Nor do I think anyone will be able to be as big a philanthropist as Michael was. He truly cared for human beings. No matter what race, religion, anything. He was truly a humble person. And he used his music to help others. Whether it was thru donating money, or donating lyrics, Michael did it. I believe he was truly a giving person. I pray that the Lord forgives him sins and grants him paradise. Long Live The King Of Pop.

This brotha was BAD!!!

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Have you any respect? June 16, 2010

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So today I was on the bus and an argument broke out. Now the bus was crowded so everybody was on everybody, and I don’t know if the one person standing stepped on the person sitting or what, but the argument happened. Here’s the kicker, the argument was between a woman in her 40s (the sitter) and little girl no more than 10 yrs old (the stander).

Now I’m sure the argument could have been avoided by a simple “excuse me”, but that didn’t happen. All I know is that this grown woman was arguing with this child as if she were grown. Then the younger girl’s mouth got filthier than a Times Square garbage can. Some of the words that came out of her mouth…good lawd. I mean all kinds of b-word, s-word, p-word, kiss my a-word, everything. And it didn’t help that the high school aged boys on the bus were laughing and “oooh”ing, which did nothing but egg the little girl on. The bus driver ended up kicking everyone off the bus at the next stop (which luckily was my stop). While I went on to my destination, a few things popped into my head.

1. Why was this grown woman arguing with this child? I mean, she was old enough to be her grandmother. Why bother?

2. Where was this child’s mother? Was she on the bus by herself with no family, friends, or classmates?

3. What is she hearing in her house? That little girl was using language that I don’t even here some adults use. I hate to say it, but I’m sure her mother or whomever she lives with is using that language, and that child is soaking it all up. Horrible.

4. Those boys were laughing, which did nothing but encourage her. What they should have done was told her to stop. I’m pretty sure she would have listen to them.

Now call me old fashion, but when I was 10 years old, I never would have thought to speak to adult that way, or anyone for that matter. Hell, I’m 26 and I still wouldn’t dare do it. But our young people today say and do whatever they want. They aren’t taught respect. Do their parents command respect in the household? Are they being taught the difference between right and wrong? You can blame media all you want, but what happens in the home matters too. And if our young people aren’t being taught correctly in the home, how we expect them to act correctly in public?

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My Black IS Beautiful June 10, 2010

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About a month or so ago, I was standing at the bus stop in the rain on my way to work. It wasn’t raining hard, just a light drizzle and it was a tad bit nippy. A beautiful young lady with an umbrella named Stacy walked up and said “here stand under with me”. She then began to ask me for directions (SN*: seems weird since I’m still learning my way around NY). We started talking. She started telling me how she recently came from Guyana and she didn’t like the cold weather. She then said, “I can’t wait for the summer, so I can get a tan. I want to be a little lighter. Like your complexion.” Now I didn’t want to kill her dream by telling her that the sun is only going to make her darker, instead I said, “Why? Your skin tone is beautiful!” From the look on her face I can tell that wasn’t something she was used to hearing. And I wasn’t just saying it for the hell of it, I really meant it. She had beautiful, pimple-free, smooth, glowing, dark chocolate skin with a beautiful smile to match. We chit chatted until she got off at her stop and I began to think; 1- she was very kind (that will be a future blog), and 2- it’s amazing how people still are, for lack of better word, ashamed of their skin color. To this day, black people still bleach their skin thinking it will make them look better. Some sistas still perm their hair because they think it will make the, look more beautiful. They believe their naturally curly hair is ugly. Why do we still consider our natural state ugly? Why are some many black people still ashamed of their beautiful melanin-enriched coverings?

A few years ago, Proctor and Gamble started a campaign called My Black Is Beautiful.You can say what you want about P&G, but I think it a wonderful campaign. They have tours, a TV show, a lot of different things with that one goal in mind, stressing that fact that Black is Beautiful. And it is needed more than ever. One of the reasons we have issues with our skin color IS because of media. We have been told for centuries that blacker you are, the uglier you are. We’ve all heard the saying, “If you’re white you’re alright; If you’re brown stick around; If you’re black stay back.” We may laugh at it now, but that mindset has been engraved in our subconscious and continues to affect us generation after generation. It’s in our songs, on the billboards, and on the TV. Like I said, media plays a HUGE part in the problem, so it’s only right that they participate in the solution, and I think “My Black is Beautiful” has started doing that.

Also, we need to teach our young girls that their black is beautiful. A lot of these images and misconceptions are fed to our daughters at a young age and it travels with them throughout their life, and then passed on to the next generation. We must teach out daughter to love themselves.

And in the process of teaching others to love themselves, we have to remember to love ourselves. Life lessons are best taught by example, and if we show others that we love ourselves, not by being conceited, but by not being ashamed of who we are. That is where the healing begins.

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*SN : side note